Why do we choose to do the job that we do?

Yesterday I read an article by Julia Felton, CEO of Business HorsePower titled: “The number one reason why networking does not work?” It went on to say that for most people networking doesn’t work as they spend their time telling people what they do and that people don’t really care WHAT you do, they care WHY you do it. This is because when people share why they do something it stirs up feelings in the limbic brain, the part of the brain responsible for decision making and behaviour. It helps people to connect through shared feelings and emotions. Whereas the telling of the what they do stimulates the neocortex which is rational and analytical but does not drive behaviour.

This got me questioning why I am a BodyTalk practitioner?

Well the obvious reasons were the health benefits I have experienced, from overcoming autoimmune issues to generally feeling less stressed about life, but it goes deeper than that. These benefits could have been achieved and continue to be achieved by attending regular BodyTalk sessions. Digging a little further I have always liked the fact that BodyTalk utilises your bodies own natural ability to heal rather than more invasive procedures. Our bodies heal themselves of injuries and illnesses all the time so where ever possible I wanted to embrace this. Where not possible, for example if I break an arm and it needs setting I will follow this practical solution. But the main underlying reason I love BodyTalk is that not only does it embrace natural healing but helps us on a journey to discover the essence of who we are. It facilitates an unravelling of past conditioning. It challenges me to question who I am. It peels away layers of stored emotions and makes me feel less restricted, freer. In nature all is trying to reach balance, harmony or homeostasis and BodyTalk embraces this. Every time a client has a session I go into a healing zone and observe their bodies making changes, this zone also facilitates healing me so by practicing BodyTalk not only does the client benefit, I do too, a win win situation! I love my job because I love seeing the shifts taking place in clients as well as in myself.

What about your job, gets you out of bed in the morning and gets you through your hardest days?

Do our bodies talk to us and if so what are they trying to say?

Have you ever wondered if your body is trying to communicate something to you? If that sore foot or tense shoulder is a message. Have you ever tried to understand that message or just suffered or ignored it? Various parts of the body have their own psychologies, their own meanings. These can arise from their Western medical functions or from Eastern medical understanding. If you listen carefully to our languaging we use words that represent this. We talk about carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders therefore it probably won’t surprise you to hear that shoulder problems can be related to burdens and responsibilities. We feel our bile rising. The gall bladder holds the bile and the liver makes the bile. In Chinese medicine anger is the emotion associated with these two organs. Women more commonly get gall stones than men because culturally they are expected to repress their anger whist men more commonly get kidney stones. The kidneys relate to the emotion of fear which men often find harder than women to express.

We also often show an understanding of these psychologies of the body in our actions we take. Continuing with the kidneys, the meridian associated with them runs through the knees and has to do with willpower. So when someone wants to weaken our will power they make us bend our knees. Think of a bank robbery. People are told to get down.

Here are a few more examples from the BodyTalk Systems website:

I am the Lungs

I am an important organ because I allow for the exchange of oxygen and carbon dioxide in the blood, so your vitality is dependent on me. I am also responsible for distributing Qi around the body and so when I am functioning properly I give sharpness to movements and allow for good reaction times. I also play an important role in releasing attachments to the past as you release each breath. So when you ‘hold on’ to things in your life, your breathing becomes shallow and you feel suffocated and unable to grow.

I am the Wrist

I am a complex character because I have such close ties to the hand, which is one of the most expressive parts of the body. I have to be very flexible and precise which requires a lot of intelligence, so it is little wonder that the stomach controls me. The stomach represents the conscious mind, and so when you start thinking too much and especially when your thinking becomes rigid and narrow-minded, then I become rigid. If you can’t ‘stomach’ your life and what is happening around you, then you will start having indigestion and I will ache and degenerate.

I am the Large Intestine

You may think that my only role is to eliminate waste as a result of the digestion of food. I do much more than that. I also eliminate impure thoughts and emotions as a result of our life experience. To do this I am able to generate grief to help you let go and move on. The desire to be in control of every situation leads to the inability to surrender yesterday’s emotions – which you call constipation. When I am functioning properly I allow for the ability to release the past and cleanly enter each day with an open mind.

What is your body saying?

Take a moment to listen… or have a BodyTalk session.

Top tips for reducing stress

My top tip is to perform the BodyTalk Cortices Technique. This is a brilliant stress reducer and improver of brain function. Please follow this link, http://www.bodytalksystem.com/learn/access/cortices.cfm, featuring John Velteim the BodyTalk founder, to see it demonstrated and to hear about its benefits.


Spend time in nature; preferably quiet time where you are mindful of your surroundings. Use your senses. Look around you and appreciate the natural beauty of your surroundings also study in detail the intricacies of a flower, listen to the birds and insects, touch the bark of a tree, smell the honeysuckle and taste blackberries.


Take your shoes off and put feet on the ground (the earth, the grass not an artificial surface). Not only does it feel relaxing but also the electrons absorbed by your feet help balance free radicals and it helps your body reestablish its natural rhythms so is particularly good for doing after late nights out, after shift work or to counteract jet lag.


Treat yourself to a BodyTalk session. My clients always comment on how relaxed they feel afterwards as it helps to unravel stress.


Exercise regularly. Be mindful of your body whist doing so. Try focusing on how your body feels whilst exercising rather than worrying about your problems. Exercises like yoga encourage mindfulness and deep relaxing breathing.


Eat good quality home cooked nutritious food. Focus on chewing your food properly and appreciating the flavours. Avoid arguments or heated discussions whilst eating.


Stroke an animal. People with pets have lower incidents of stress and disease.



Keep positive and accept that there are things in life that you can’t control. Watch your self-talk, stop running yourself down and saying “I should have……” all the time.


Get enough sleep, 7 to 8 hours a night, and put aside time to take a break.


Listen to calming music and watch a comedy or find something that makes you laugh.


Share with a friend.


Find a purpose or vision that makes your life meaningful. Question your motivations behind what you are doing in your everyday life and whether the associated stresses are worthwhile.


Identify things you fear e.g. letting people down, speaking in public, fear of failure, not getting recognition and spiders. Adopt techniques that help you overcome your fears such as BodyTalk which can help with this.


Lastly breathe out deeply and enjoy life!

Tough Love

I have just returned from spending almost 5 weeks in the Bushveld, including two weeks volunteering on a conservation project adjacent to the Kruger National Park in South Africa. This is a place where you get a chance to observe nature at its wildest, at its fullest. It also a place that gives you the space to reflect on life, to put aside your personal problems and to look at the bigger picture. It is also a hard place where animals have to use their skills and instincts to survive and a cruel place where mankind’s greed and vast numbers have led to many species being on the brink of extinction due to land pressure and relentless poaching. It is also my favourite place as it is an authentic place. It is a place where your senses come to life and and a deeper sense of belonging to a whole, to being part of the universe, seeps in.

Whilst I was out there a ranger from another reserve bordering Kruger Park was stabbed 18 times and his throat was slit. He survived. His wife was stabbed too. This was done by poachers demanding to know where rhino horn was stored. A rhino died too. A game count was conducted and rhino numbers in this region where down by 20% on last year.

I ask myself when will consumers think through the consequences of their actions buying these products? I read an interview with a Vietnamese man, who consumed rhino horn, because he said it made him feel like a king, because only kings and queens could afford to buy it in the past. How sad is that. Rhino horn is made from keratin, like finger nails. It reminds me of the Emperor’s clothing. How people can blindly believe in fantasy, but with a tragic twist that the rhinos are doomed to be extinct in 10 years if poaching is not stopped. The other consequence is the people behind poaching, like those behind major drug supply, are often terrorists using this income to fund their activities.

It’s time to act to fight back, to take responsibility for our wildlife and ultimately for ourselves. Our wellbeing and health depends on nature. Save the Rhino has launched a campaign called nailit4rhinos to bring awareness to their plight and the fact that the horn is made from keratin like our nails. Come on everyone please support it. Guys you will raise more questions wearing nail polish so don’t just leave it to the ladies! I will share the campaign advert on Facebook otherwise google nailit4rhinos for details. I have also made a commitment to give 30% of the profits I raise from my BodyTalk practise to charities I have vetted to help fight poaching. So come and have a BodyTalk session and you will be contributing in that way.

Embracing your passions in life

Dr Janina Ramirez, the art historian, researcher, lecturer and TV presenter, came to speak at my daughter’s school speech day. Her message to the girls was to find a job that they loved and were passionate about as then hard work and enjoyment would follow naturally and obstacles would be more easily overcome. She also commented that this was more important to her than making lots of money and that if you were friendly and nice to people they tended to reciprocate.


This reasonated with me and reminded me of moving to our current house ten years ago. We had seen the garden in winter so I was dismayed to discover that it was inundated with perennial weeds and expensive plants that had died from lack of watering. I am not proud to admit that I shed a few tears of frustration and said a few nasty words about the previous owners neglect. However, I decided that I had always wanted to have lovely garden and that I was not going to let these obstacles stand in my way. What gave me the strength of endurance and desire to reach my goal was the passion and love I had for gardening. Since I was a little girl I had always had my own bit of garden. My hard work and enthusiasm paid off. I now have the pleasure of looking out on a beautiful garden and yes; it is still lots of hard work. What probably gives me the most pleasure though is being able to share it with others; whether they are friends coming over for a BBQ, Gardeners’ World viewers or doing open gardens to raise money for charity.


Have you taken the time to explore what your passions are in life? Are you doing a job that makes your heart sing or are you plodding along doing what you think others expect you to do? Take some time for yourself to discover what you love doing and then take action and do it.


If you are already, please share your stories with us.

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